Put Some Trust Out There

Good morning. I haven't written in awhile because I have been quietly observing interactions between people. You know, sometimes I feel like I'm the one being observed in a fish bowl and other times I feel like I'm observing people in a fish bowl. I guess it depends on how I'm feeling.

What I've learned recently is a serious lack of trust between people. You know, we're only people and we all make mistakes. And unless someone is truly evil (which is so rare it shouldn't be taken into consideration), why not try to take what a person says at face value?

I'm talking about trust here. We don't have to put all our trust and faith into one person that maybe we don't really know that well. But instead of completely blowing someone off and ignoring them, what about putting a little faith in them? What about putting a little faith in a stranger? Giving someone the benefit of the doubt opens up new channels of communication as well as potentially new awesome relationships.

I view the inner workings of myself as a house; I have the power to control who comes in and out of my house. In the past, as we all have, I have had some people come into my "house" and trash it. I kick them out and look at the mess they left. As I put lamps upright and vacuum the rugs in my "house", I tell myself "I am never going to let that happen again!" Well, lately I have begun to think that is not a good way to live.

I have had some guests in my "house" that have made some serious messes, I mean, you know, like crapped on the carpets kind of messes. But there is nothing stopping me from throwing out the "rugs" and getting something new. (Please hang on to this metaphor for a bit yet). I can clean up things and make them nice again; I don't have to live in a mess. I can trust MYSELF to keep my "house" tidy again.

All that being said (did you like my metaphor?), I shouldn't lock people out. I should welcome them in and offer them tea or hot chocolate or something. Let them take a seat in my "house." When they start to act up, instead of letting them wreak havoc all over my new carpets and beautiful furniture, I kindly escort them out. It's as simple as that.

Recognizing those who effect my inner workings in a negative way (trash my house), I have started to notice that those who I let in are of a better "type" than before. But all those connections, new, old, and revamped, require trust. Trust more, be suspicious less but be aware of someone who maybe isn't "quite right" for you and your life. Don't be afraid to kindly escort them out the "door."

I bring up trust because I see that our politicians don't trust each other, we can't trust them...we are losing trust and faith in each other. We help each other out less, we don't hold doors for each other. We don't smile at each other and say good morning.

So, clean your "house", invite someone in. Smile at someone walking on the street and if you have the chance, say good morning. I go to the post office every day for work and I try to say good morning to everyone as we come and go. It's a great way to kick off the day and start to help others put trust in others that we are GOOD people. Think about it....