My head finally feels normal after four days of a dull and lingering migraine. Stress related, so the doctor says. I finally feel like myself again and I am looking forward to a long and sweaty workout tomorrow morning. This is, of course, assuming that I still feel this good tomorrow morning. I do not like being out of commission like this.
I've been finding lots of bits of myself all over the place - figuratively, of course. As I continue to find these bits of myself, I am finding it interesting to see who is interested in helping me pick up these bits (I refuse to call them pieces...that seems degrading). There are days when I don't feel good - I don't feel happy. But I am able to mostly cope with the crap that comes down the pike. But then, don't we all have horrible days? Days when things just don't seem quite right?
So what is the high standard that others have for us? When we, especially the ones who have "issues", don't perform perfectly on a given day, we have failed to meet the expectations that seem higher than perhaps, others. But why is there any pressure to perform for others at all? Shouldn't we be the only ones, personally, that we hold ourselves accountable to?
Yes. Of course we should. There are typical patterns of human behavior, but patterns are patterns and that doesn't make them the standard. In terms of human emotion, there is no wrong or right way to act. The only right thing to do is to be honest with yourself and the only wrong way to be is to pretend that something is different than what it actually is.
I should also note that in adhering to this way of thinking - the whole cliche "be honest to yourself" thing - it's important to apply this to other people. When people don't behave in a way that you believe is correct you have to really stand back and see if it really matters. If someone doesn't behave in a situation the way that you would, does that necessarily make them wrong? Or just...different?
Lets not be hypocrites here. How many times have you reacted to a situation that wasn't "normal"? Have you been judged for behaving/reacting in the wrong way? I know this is true about you - everyone fails to perform the way they "should"...and that's completely NORMAL. The trick is not to judge when others don't perform the way you want them to.
It's just a reminder - no one is or ever will be perfect. But that doesn't make anyone less or more than another person. We are herd like animals...we act very similarly to one another...but not always.
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